When I'm around other parents, and the kids are elsewhere, eventually the subject of the discussion will be the kids, anyway. As parents, they are too much of the focus, too much of the time, too much of the energy for them NOT to be a major and popular topic of discussion.
But it's all real time, or close to it, as frame for the discussion. And it's mostly personal - what sport Billy is playing, what musical instrument Tanya wants to learn, the bug going around the school, what summer camps have the kids tried, etc. We rarely discuss the future - the real future, the expected future, the desired future for our kids. Not what we want for ourselves, but what we want for our kids, and for their future. How we should handoff the planet, so to speak. That's a discussion families may have, but not often shared much amongst friends, and almost never amongst acquaintances.
It seems to me that's a discussion our country sorely needs. I don't know why a national politician doesn't tap into it, and quite easily ask the questions: What kind of America do you want for your kids? How should America operate when they become adults? How should America prepare for their generation? Are we leaving America better or worse off for our kids than our parents left for us? Are there greater sacrifices that we should make for the next generation? What is reasonable to expect for American in the next generation? Have you discussed with your friends that have kids these kinds of questions? What do they think? Will you sit around a dinner table with your friends, and talk about it as friends? Won't you do that for your kids?
In fact, I'm not sure why there isn't a group, something like "Parents for the Future", that provide bandwidth and venue for such talk, locally and nationally. It is, after all, a humungous topic, one that can't be talked out in one or three or fifteen hours, but could be (and should be) a lifetime of discussion and action as we raise our kids. It shouldn't be a partisan thing, that will only rot the future value of such an effort. It could be an idea sharing and discussing and developing process, open to thoughts from both liberal and conservative, and synthesized into something that eventually became policy or practice over generation.
I know, I know - parents don't have much time for things, since they're so busy parenting. But is it responsible to not do this? These will be our kids living in this world we build 50 years from now. Shouldn't we be thinking ahead for them since they're too young to do it now?
Obviously, we should. But it sure seems to me that we need to be more effective in results. The first step is to talk with each other and figure out how.